Changing your Acceptable Outcomes


Every day in life people settle. They settle with their goals, settle with their accomplishments, settle with their relationships, settle with their finances and settle in their marriage. The question is not whether you are settling, the question is what are you settling for? If you do not like your outcomes, change them. It’s never too late to reinvent yourself or start something new. Miracles happen when you refuse to accept your state, be it a state of poverty, inefficiency, sloppiness, laziness, lack of productivity and unhappiness.

Define clearly what you want!

What do you want in life? You do get in life what you wish for, you get in life what you prepare for. How can you prepare for that which you are unaware of? You need to clearly define your goals such that you can spot it from a distance, you can smell it, you know who you need to connect with, you know where you need to be going, you know the books you need to be reading and you know the prayers you need to be saying.

Mark McCormack tells of a study conducted on the 1979 Harvard MBA program. In that year, the students were asked, “Have you set clear, written goals for your future and made plans to accomplish them?” Only three percent of the graduates had written goals and plans; 13 percent had goals, but they were not in writing; and a whopping 84 percent had no specific goals at all. Ten years later, the members of the class were interviewed again, and the findings, while somewhat predictable, were nonetheless astonishing. The 13 percent of the class who had goals were earning, on average, twice as much as the 84 percent who had no goals at all. And astonishingly the three percent who had clear, written goals, they were earning, on average, ten times as much as the other 97 percent put together1.

Define your acceptable outcomes, be specific and make a plan on how to accomplish them. Do not make room for failure, in fact refuse average, aim for the skies and by Gods power you will hit a star.

Define clearly what you do not want!

This is called the power of “NO”. Saying no will get you further than most of the yeses you are saying. It’s called self-discipline, restraint and self-control. Someone said “simplify your life, simply say no”. A lot of people have regrets for decisions they’ve made and invitations which they simply could have said no to. For some it’s the difference between life and death, some never live to tell the tale. You have spent your life building success habits, do not let someone somewhere who does not know how far you have come cajole you, make you feel bad and get you to do something you ordinarily would not be doing.

Define and be clear on what you do not want. Be clear to yourself on contrary issues, be convinced and convicted fully in your ideologies and philosophies of life. Do not be caught giving the lame excuse for your behavior by you simply saying everyone is doing it. Do not be caught giving an excuse period. When you are asked why you do what you do share your convictions and success stories, make every effort to identify the underlining belief for your behavior. Start today always ask why am I doing this? When you know what you do not want you quickly eliminate distractions.

Finally redefine your vocabulary, raise your definition of what is acceptable. Average is not acceptable, failure is not acceptable. When your definition of acceptable is success or nothing, excellence, effectiveness, productivity and growth, you automatically insist on your own outcome. You judge yourself before you are judged by anybody else, you raise the bar before anyone else does, you recreate, reinvent and innovate before other people tell you  you are now obsolete.

Commit to a daily routine to grow your mind.

That’s G.Y.M for today and I trust that you are charged up and obsessed with a burning desire to succeed. Ordinary is a misnomer for you.

Plan, Act and Pursue your dream.

Orezi Emeotu

#GrowYourMind Coach


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  1. What they don’t teach you in Harvard Business School Mark .H. McCormack



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